Have you ever had an eternal friend.

The friend with whom you break every barrier with just to keep the friendship fire burning?

A friend you have argued with and gotten into a really bad fight with, and it seemed like it was the end? You know each other so well and know the very things that you dislike, the very things that would tear you down, and you take a spear to pierce through each other’s weak spots?You leave each other feeling naked and hopeless?And you both feel like you will be caught dead talking to each other ever again?!


When the wounds are healed and you no longer want to expose yourself like that to another friend, when you have finally gathered all your courage to move on, and somehow one way or another, you find yourselves pulled back together. You are both guilty about what you did. But for some reason, you still forgive each other but try to be cautious. Against your self-made acclamations, you dive deeper into  the friendship. Deeper than it was at first. You discover that with all you have been through, you have both learnt something you will NOT like to repeat EVER again!


Am telling you it is foolishness to those who will see the two of you back together. This time even more tighter than before, inimical to your resistance-efforts. No one will understand. Those who have been there can relate. Especially if you fought over very minor issues. Issues you would shoot someone down for reminding you, because you can do whatever it takes to burry the memories in the deepest grave possible. Am not talking about the friend who is definitely a betrayer. Am talking about a friend who you took your time to trust and concluded that you could even trust him/her with your life. What would happen if this trust is broken? The pain tears right into the soul.

If at all you can stand each other and  get back together, learn from your mistakes and this time round board the friendship-train with more understanding, you might be headed for an eternal friendship.


Be sure that what pulls the two of you back together is not lack of other friends or because you need something from them or they need something from you. It is because you found someone with whom you can relate, irrespective of cultural, religious, academic or racial backgrounds.

Having someone who MUTUALLY treats your life like their own, your family like their own, your dreams like their own and is always there for you regardless of distance or circumstances, is an eternal friend.


I have had so many friends, but I think I can simply call them, ‘people I know’ or ‘people I have met’, because many request for your help, but very few can reciprocate. When they need you they come crawling. You help them to raise to their feet. As soon as they are done with you, they flush you from their programs like toilet-paper.  When you will need them they suddenly treat you like a tick. What a pity!

I won’t complain though. Life is like that, there are people who YOU WALK ON, people who WALK ON YOU and people who WALK WITH YOU. At least I know the difference, but am grateful to God for shedding the light on those amazing people who make my life amazing and whose lives I love decorating.

He/she is the most reliable person when it comes to hearing THE TRUTH, no hard feelings.


Ask King David, he had a friend who always watched his back, Jonathan. If you read his story, you can witness that they were very loyal friends. David respected their covenant even when Jonathan was dead. When Jonathan died he said, (2 Samuel 1:26-27)

“How are the mighty fallen in the midst of the battle! O Jonathan, thou wast slain in thine high places. I am distressed for thee, my brother Jonathan, very pleasant hast thou been unto me: thy love to me was wonderful, passing the love of women. How are the mighty fallen, and the weapons of war perished!”

This kind of love, surpasses the love of lovers (that is something totally different), because it is not for gain or to chase away loneliness. It has limits of course. It is not for profit. It is patient, simple but true.

Rarest to find, but endures forever.



Many thanks to my true friends. Cheers!!! 🙂


14 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Wanangwe Mordecai
    Dec 24, 2013 @ 02:27:01

    Amazing Gathoni!Me like it….read each line and could relate.very true…keep it up dear friend.I promise a better 2014 🙂 am one of the bad friends 🙂


  2. Valtoybob
    Dec 24, 2013 @ 06:34:14

    Really touching and true…


  3. Grace
    Dec 24, 2013 @ 06:44:35

    wow!..great article n absolutely true.Big ups.


  4. lweyajoe
    Dec 24, 2013 @ 09:51:00

    Reblogged this on My Wild Ventures and commented:
    They Told Me, “Add your thoughts here… (optional)”. Oooh, I got it, it says optional… AWESOME.


  5. Elizabeth Mware
    Dec 24, 2013 @ 20:00:43

    Why are the best things rare to find?


  6. Gilbert Kimutai
    Dec 31, 2013 @ 08:24:54

    Reblogged this on The source code.


  7. nzioker
    Dec 31, 2013 @ 13:03:29

    Love the article for its truth and insight on true friendship. Its great and you are blessed.


  8. kawkeytrish
    Jan 01, 2014 @ 14:49:58

    dear friend from way back
    when…. which degree of
    separation(read friendship)
    are we at now. that was a
    great read!


  9. Eunice Makau.
    Jan 04, 2014 @ 10:06:05

    in life we are blessed to meet friends who are just like family to us
    the bad times with them can never compare with the good times which always leave permanent marks of precious and treasured memories.
    if you ever get such a friend,then RAFIKI NI AKUFAAYE becomes a reality.

    thanx gal for such a sweet piece..


  10. gathonimware
    Jan 04, 2014 @ 20:36:37

    You are welcome my dear. I have had the privilege of having good and bad friends, and I have also been a good and bad friend. Am grateful for those friendships that have worked out against all odds, and that was what inspired me to write this article.


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